29 Life Lessons I Learned Before Turning 30

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Hey there! I recently came to a realization that I wanted to share with you. I always had this idea that by the time I turned 30, my life would be all set – I’d be married with kids, have a great job, live in my dream home, and be financially secure. But as I approach my 30th birthday, I can’t help but reflect on the past 29 years and how things haven’t quite gone as planned.

It’s funny to think that I even had my ten-year class reunion recently! Let me be clear, I’m not judging anyone whose life has taken a different path than mine. If you had kids in your twenties, more power to you! This is just me reflecting on my own journey so far and what I’ve learned along the way.

How could it have been 10 years since I got my high school diploma? 

It’s amazing how time flies, isn’t it? I remember feeling like life was moving at a snail’s pace until I hit 25, and suddenly the last five years just zoomed by! Looking back, I feel pretty good about how I spent my twenties. I kicked off the decade by graduating from college and moving in with my boyfriend, and then later I lived with my two best friends for five whole years! We had an absolute blast and made some unforgettable memories. I truly believe that our twenties are all about having fun, exploring who we are, and growing alongside our friends.

My Twenties Lifestyle

Living a mostly bachelorette lifestyle for many of your twenties can be a time of great self-discovery. It’s a time to explore your interests, passions, and priorities without the constraints of a committed relationship. During this time, you may learn more about yourself than you ever thought possible. You may discover what you truly want in a partner, what your deal-breakers are, and what you’re willing to compromise on. Read here about how becoming a morning person was the best thing I did for myself!

You may also gain a clearer understanding of what you want out of life in general, whether it’s a fulfilling career, a loving family, or a sense of purpose. In my experience, settling for less than what you truly want can be more harmful than waiting for the right person, job, or opportunity to come along. It’s important to be patient and trust that the universe has a plan for you, even if it takes a little longer than you’d like.


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My Career

As important as it is to have a fulfilling career, it’s crucial to remember that work should not consume your life entirely. It’s important to have a good balance between your personal and professional life. If you’re constantly overworking yourself, the likelihood of experiencing burnout is high, which can negatively impact your mental and physical health. Therefore, it’s essential to set boundaries and prioritize self-care. Remember that work is just one aspect of your life, and it’s not healthy to let it take over everything. It’s crucial to make time for your hobbies, interests, and relationships outside of work. This will help you maintain a healthy work-life balance and lead a more fulfilling life overall.

One Regret

My only regret from my twenties is living well above my means. I mean like, well above. I thought money would be endless and I would always make more money eventually, but it’s been a setback as I enter my third decade on this planet. It’s important to be mindful of your spending habits and avoid overspending whenever possible.

While it’s natural to want nice things, it’s important to remember that material possessions do not bring lasting happiness. It’s often better to focus on experiences and relationships rather than accumulating more stuff. So, before making a purchase, ask yourself if you really need it or if it’s just a fleeting desire. By being mindful of your spending and making intentional choices, you can avoid the stress and anxiety that often comes with overspending and live a more fulfilling life.

I hope my thirties look like…

I’m really excited for my thirties. I hope to spend more time at farmers markets, drinking tea, and enjoying life’s simple pleasures. I’m ready to swap out late nights for a full eight hours of sleep, and happy hour for some quality relaxation time. I can’t wait for my thirties to be filled with love, laughter, and all the good things life has to offer!

Life Lessons

I’m feeling thrilled to share some of the most valuable life lessons that I have learned over the past 29 years. As I approach my 30th birthday, I have been reflecting on the various experiences and insights that have helped shape me into the person I am today. Through the ups and downs of life, I have learned a great deal about love, motivation, perseverance, failure, and success. I can’t wait to share my insights with you and hope they can also be of value to you.

The lessons we learn in life are the building blocks of our personal growth. They are the result of both positive and negative experiences that help us adapt and evolve with each new challenge. No matter how small or big they may seem, each lesson has something valuable to teach us, such as patience, resilience, or empathy. They shape our future and enable us to navigate the obstacles that lie ahead with confidence and determination.

Lessons are like little treasures that we gather along the way, and they help us connect with others by sharing our stories and guiding us through life’s journey. They remind us that every experience, good or bad, has something to teach us.

With this post, I’m excited to share some lessons that have helped me navigate relationships, chase my dreams, and uncover who I am. These insights aren’t just for me but for anyone wanting to learn and grow with me. So, come along as I reflect on these lessons and celebrate the journey ahead with all the wisdom we’ve gathered so far.

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My 29 Lessons in 29 Years

  1. Embrace Change: people and things are constantly evolving, for better or for worse. 
  2. Self-care Isn’t Selfish: You are the only person who has to spend everyday with yourself. Take care of yourself. 
  3. Mistakes Happen: Learn from them, and just keep moving forward.
  4. Comparison is the Thief of Joy: Focus on your journey, not others’. I wish I would have learned this a lot earlier. 
  5. Boundaries Matter: Say no when needed; it’s okay (this one took a long time to learn).
  6. Kindness is Powerful: It costs nothing but means everything. 
  7. Have Faith In Humanity. It’s important we don’t lose sight of that. 
  8. It’s Okay to Ask for Help: We all need a hand sometimes.
  9. Invest in Relationships: Quality over quantity, always.
  10. Take Risks: They lead to the best adventures.
  11. Gratitude Changes Everything: Find joy in the small things.
  12. Perfection is Overrated: Embrace your quirks.
  13. Failure is Feedback: It’s not the end; it’s a stepping stone.
  14. Let Go of Toxicity: People, habits, whatever it may be.
  15. Invest in Learning: Never stop growing and expanding your mind.
  16. Your Gut Knows Best: Trust your instincts; they’re usually right.
  17. Celebrate Small Wins: They pave the way for bigger victories.
  18. Time Alone is Valuable: It’s where self-discovery happens.
  19. Mindset is Key: Positive thoughts lead to positive outcomes.
  20. Prioritize Health: Mental, physical, emotional – it’s all interconnected.
  21. It’s Okay to Outgrow Things: People, interests, beliefs – it’s part of growth.
  22. Find Your Passion: Pursue what makes your heart sing.
  23. Money Isn’t Everything: Experiences hold far more value.
  24. Create, Don’t Just Consume: It’s liberating and fulfilling.
  25. Forgiveness is Freedom: Holding grudges weighs you down.
  26. Live in the Present: Yesterday’s gone, tomorrow’s uncertain – now is what matters.
  27. Laughter Heals: It’s the best medicine, truly.
  28. Stay Curious: The world is vast; keep exploring (don’t ever stop doing this).
  29. You’re Enough: Just as you are right now.


As I move forward

It’s important to recognize that everyone’s path in life is different. While some people may prefer a fast-paced, social lifestyle in their thirties, others may prioritize a more calm and settled existence. There is no right or wrong way to live your life, as long as you are true to yourself and your values. It’s great that you have a clear vision of what you want your life to look like in your thirties.

By setting goals and aspirations for yourself, you can work towards creating the life you desire. It’s important to remember that achieving your dreams may not happen overnight, but with hard work, dedication, and perseverance, you can make your vision a reality. I encourage you to stay focused on what matters most to you and to never give up on your dreams.

As I get ready to wave goodbye to my 20s and welcome a new decade, I wanted to share some of the lessons that have helped me navigate through life. They have shaped my perspective and provided me with guidance in every step of the way.  But I’m well aware that there’s still so much more to learn and experience. I’m excited to embrace every new challenge that comes my way and gain more valuable insights along the way. 

I hope that the lessons I’ve shared will resonate with you and offer some guidance on your own journey. Let’s face the future with open hearts and minds, ready to embrace all the lessons and adventures that await us. Cheers to the growth we’ve achieved so far, and to the even more exciting possibilities that lie ahead!

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